Family. Can't live with them...

[chaps1870]

This is either really sad or really pathetic or possibly wierd.  So I haven't communicated with my older sister in say...ten years or more. And I'm cruising through classmates. com on whim and I see her name so I bring it up and wow. I think I learned more about her there than I've ever known. Yes, I know it's sad, but she moved out when she turned 18 and never looked back. I maybe saw her a handful of times after that. What can I say, we were a seriously dysfunctional family. None of us make a huge effort to communicate so can't really pin it on just her.

So I contacted her and she actually emailed me back.  We'll see how it goes.

Comments

[grey853.livejournal.com]

I hope you're able to establish some kind of relationship with your sister. I know I'm very close to my two sisters and I treasure having them.

That said, my youngest sister and I were never really close until she grew up and got her own family. We're 17 years apart and I went off to college the year she was born. She lives in Virginia now, but we still talk every day.

My other sister is only 2 years younger, but we have very different viewpoints on life. She's super conservative and lives in Georgia. Even so, we're still super tight and talk on the phone every day just to check in and let one another know about our lives.

I've got brothers, though, and if I hear from them once a year, I'm lucky. I'm glad I don't have to depend on them to have a family connection, or I'd feel very isolated indeed.

Good luck with the reunion.

[tzi.livejournal.com]

You know, there are only 8.5 years between the baby and me, but yes. It wasn't until she was grown that we had any kind of real relationship outside of my "Oh god you are unbearably annoying" and her "Oh god you are SO WEIRD".

[grey853.livejournal.com]

Family dynamics is a head spinner sometimes.

[tzi.livejournal.com]

Indubitably.

[chaps1870.livejournal.com]

I can't imagine talking to any of my family everyday. We all just grew up and grew apart.
I'm much closer to my husband's family these days.

It's cool you've kept your family ties even with the age difference.

[tzi.livejournal.com]

I wish you the best of luck. I can't imagine life without my sisters, despite the fact that the baby and I weren't close for years due to the age difference (eight and a half years; I left home just after turning 17 and didn't come back until I was 21 or 22). I hope it goes well.

[chaps1870.livejournal.com]

I actually get along better with my brothers, my sisters, not so much.

[tzi.livejournal.com]

That's interesting. How many of you are there?

[chaps1870.livejournal.com]

I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. We are spread across the country and don't see each other much.